Non Violent Resistance

We deliver it as coaching to parents, without need for the practitioner to see the focus child. The intention is to raise the self-esteem and dignity of the parent and to raise the regard in which both parent, and child, hold each other. NVR celebrates and builds upon the knowledge that the parents are the experts of their child(ren) and that the practitioner is there to coach them in the principles of NVR. Parents and Practitioner work in equal partnership to devise NVR based strategies that will be bespoke to their family situation.

Firstly, it’s important to say that no two NVR journeys are the same. Every family is different and so how things are learned and applied varies. However, usually sessions are about an hour and a quarter and during initial sessions we check how a parent’s self-care is going, families share what happened over the past week in your home, we celebrate successful practice of principles and learn from incidents which may have arisen. Tom may then share an NVR principle and then we would discuss how this applies to your family, agreeing how the family will practice it during the week. Along the way, it is likely that some assessment work will be required, often funders like to see how NVR has helped.We will need some extra sessions along the journey to meet with the family’s supporters.

NVR can be successfully applied within the school setting with significant improvements in challenging behaviours. Courageous Teachers, by Haim Omer is a helpful book which applies NVR to the school system. Rather than a behaviour policy based on reward and sanction (points and detentions), NVR suggests school adopt a relationship based approach where:

students are set up for success (with adaptations and priorities)
unconditional relational gestures persistently position staff in high regard in student’s minds and hearts,
students are supported to properly repair broken relationships and
students are authentically invited to be part of their own solution in a persistent, resistant manner

The approach explores how staff unintentionally participate in escalations, how deescalation tactics can be tried and practiced and how we can make sure those working directly with the child are given New Authority. The traditional idea of support and problem being within classroom is challenged and we ask for support from many members of the wider staff team to play key roles in successfully nurturing positive behaviours and resisting challenging ones.

UsefulPsychology accepts referrals from the local authority for families supported by Early Help, the Family Plus Team and other Adoption support and foster agencies

Contact Us

Whilst we welcome all questions and concerns via email, or contact form, please visit our FAQs first, just in case we have answered your query already!

We believe in our work being free at the point of access. This means that the vast majority of our work is funded. We work mostly with looked after children in Adoption or Fostering Services or families supported by chid in need or child protection plans.

On very rare occasions we have been known to take on private work, but often will do this via third parties.

Our parenting work, NVR and Therapeutic Parenting, can be done online but DDP with the child/young person needs to be done in our therapeutic space in Troon, Camborne. Whist online has many positives; we would encourage parents to come to our therapy space as face to face has an edge on online work.

We are fortunate to have found an accessible therapy space on the renovated King Edward Mine site in Troon, Camborne. Not only is the site stunning and dramatic, set in an expansive beautiful rural landscape with the ruins of an old engine house close by, but there is ample parking and a café on site too.

The address is:
Unit 3, King Edward Work Spaces, Newton Moor, Troon, Camborne
TR14 9HW

You can find us on google maps at: https://maps.app.goo.gl/8eAth9ktbfLGJYq97

You can find us via What3words using: ///cackling.rocked.news

Yes the therapy space is wheelchair accessible with disabled toilets available in the building. Should you have specific needs, please let us know.

The usual process is:

You talk with your lead professional who contacts us. We approach you and we agree to meet. At the meeting we talk about what brought you here and we share what we can offer. If we agree we will then write to your lead professional with our quote.

Your lead professional will then fill in the paper work and submit it to the Adoption Support Fund.

Currently, the Adoption Support Fund can take on average 6 weeks to process the application.

Once the funding is agreed, they will let your lead professional know, who will then let us all know and we will then find an agreeable time and date to start.

So, depending on the availability of everyone in the system, it can take 8 – 12 weeks between your professional asking us to work with you and our first therapy session.

Home

Our Approaches

Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy

Therapeutic Parenting